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The Relationship Compatibility Continuum

The Relationship Compatibility Continuum

Written by Ross Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., CADC.Self-Love Recovery Institute – President/CEOPsychotherapist, Educator, Author, Expert Witness   Using simple graphics and math, Ross Rosenberg’s Relationship Compatibility Continuum explains and quantifies the unconscious and reflexive...

Am I a narcissist?

A Codependent Cannot Be a Narcissist

Ross is frequently asked the question, "can a person be a codependent and narcissist at the same time." Codependents ask this question because of their distorted sense of self and personal boundaries.

LET'S GET THE WORD OUT ACROSS THE POND!

LET'S GET THE WORD OUT ACROSS THE POND!

Dear UK friend or Colleague, I hope you all are well and have survived the terrible year of COVID. As many of you know, I am tirelessly devoted and committed to...

What Happens When You Break Up With a Narcissist

What Happens When You Break Up With a Narcissist

Most narcissists who are facing “the boot” will do almost anything to stall or buy time. They try to regain a foothold on the codependent’s demonstration of power, control and resolve. Any last-ditch efforts or promises to change or stop may be genuine but are impossible and do not elicit permanent results. This is because pathological narcissists lack the psychological resources, ability, and insight to stay focused on what is wrong with themselves

THE ORGANIZING VALUE OF RELATIONSHIP CIRCLES

Resisting the rigid mindset of organizing your relationships in binaries of good or bad, like or dislike, avoidance or enmeshment, can be challenging when you desire to become less close and involved with a friend, close friend, or intimate partner. Using the relationship circles concept to reorganize a friend’s meaning and value to you is possible without uncomfortable conflict, hurt feelings, and excessive and needless drama.

Co-Dependency Anonymous Was Broken from the Start

A SYNOPSIS OF ROSS ROSENBERG'S BROKEN FROM THE STARTCO-DEPENDENTS ANONYMOUSWho Has Power Over Whom? YouTube Video: tiny.cc/CoDA_Is_Broken Just like other 12-step programs, CoDA’s first step pinpoints the out-of-control addiction or compulsive...

To Dash or Not Dash - Co-Dependency's Evolution

The “dash” version of co-dependency never advanced beyond its original family systems theory influence. Still, it sheds light on the addict’s chemical dependency and their partner’s propensity to sabotage their treatment unconsciously, reflexively, and predictably. Moreover, with the development of the co-dependency term, concept, and burgeoning treatment accommodations available to them, positive and negative treatment outcomes could be statistically correlated to the participation of the partner to the addict.

Projection

PROJECTION AND NARCISSITIC INJURIES

Projection is a defense mechanism that invisibly and unconsciously protects the narcissist from understanding their true shame-dominated and self-hating selves. Narcissists project their self-hatred, self-judgment, and unexpressed rage over their unmitigated child abuse onto a safer person: the offending and supposedly injuring person. Projection conveniently shifts, places, and diverts all of what the narcissist hates about themselves, which is too painful and unsafe to recollect, onto the person they misperceived as hurting them.

ABANDONING CODEPENDENTS

  From Chapter Eight: Codependency Traits and Personality Types Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC  Abandoning codependents are mistakenly presumed to be...

CODEPENDENCY ADDICTION

  From Chapter Three: Chemistry, Addiction, and Limerence Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Codependency is more than a problem with the...

THE HISTORY OF CODEPENDENCY

  From Chapter Seven: The New Codependency Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC This chapter aims to ruffle a few feathers, go...

A CODEPENDENT CAN NOT BE A NARCISSIST

From Chapter Seven: The New Codependency Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC  Over the last twelve years, I have been frequently asked,...

TAKING ON THE CODEPENDENCY ESTABLISHMENT

From Chapter Six: The History of Codependency Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution:Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC Fortunately for science, pairing creativity with skepticism promotes discoveries while...

TALKING ABOUT A REVOLUTION

TALKING ABOUT A REVOLUTION

Excerpt from “The Codependency Revolution:Fixing What Was Always Broken (2024)” Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC  The Outside Revolution “…..As my typing fingers translated the circuitous exploratory processes of my mind, I...

WHEN THE END GREETS THE BEGINNING

WHEN THE END GREETS THE BEGINNING

  This poem was written after terminating an abusive relationship while finally achieving a feeling of safety. Through metaphorically representing body parts and my “soul,” I tried to capture my...